Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Friends with the Ex?

Wheel of fortune is a card in tarot cards that depicts how sometimes one can be up and other times down. Nothing lasts forever, neither up or down. I was down, for quite a time due to the circumstances beyond my control. I will write about it one day, but for now let's just say that year  wasn't the best year.

My boyfriend of over two years and I split. He was the one that I was sure that I will marry. Lesson learned, we cannot be sure of anything. Since he is a marvelous, even if selfish human being, I am trying to stay friends with the ex. One thing is sure, we know each other very well, and obviously we understand each other little quirks which makes things easier in a friendship world. I know how to make him laugh, he knows how to make my days. From outside it looks so perfect.

Inside, there are days when things are not as rosy. Especially, after I have a glass of wine. Wine is known to limit inhibitions. In my case, it limits my brain and any self respect that I may exhibit. As soon as the vino hits my system all the emotional tsunami hits my phone in form of a texts. Not any text but a book long of how we were perfect and why we are not together. We will regret this and all this emotional avalanche that otherwise I would never said out loud. Naturally, the next day the hangover comes. Going through the messages I want to move away to a country no one even knows it exist. It is that bad. Or, like today, he came over to pick something up and bends over to hug me. I do not want any physical contact since it makes my heart skip a beat. You can only imagine how he comes down to just hug me and I get stiff trying to avoid it. Awkward!

Over all it comes in waves, one day I feel so adult; being friends with my ex! Just to feel desperate and naive thinking that this may even work. Perhaps it is the time to find someone new. Someone, who will make me wanna love again...

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

La La Land of the Lost

     Do you dream? I dream - I dream big dreams. After all they say to dream big. But now I know that dreaming big is not enough. I disappeared to dream - and here I am two weeks later with nothing to show for it. If you can imagine it then you achieve teaches us the famous book The Secret. 

     I have to disagree! Big time actually. This is not to say that dreams do not come true, because they do. But imagining them is not enough. I am sorry I don't care how real can I imagine my dream, I do not care if I can smell it, or touch it. Unless, I actually get my ass off the couch - no dream will ever happen. 

     It took me a little to realize this. There is a process to having all you want, how you want it. Envisioning is just part of the process. Then, you need to start acting on it. Make a plan, detailed plan to how are you going to achieve these things that you want. The most ironic part is, that I always knew that it is the action that breeds results. Somehow, my inner lazy lady wanted to believe the secret and I lost 2,5 months. The good news is: I still have 9 months to deliver...

     I got lost for a moment but now I am back. First thing: creating a vision board. Women wear many hats, each hat has its own unique set of problems. Women do worry as it is their job. The trick is when our mind is occupied with things that may never happen the vision of your dream disappears. The vision board is a reminder for the brain to get back and focus on the dreams. I have to be honest here, I am not exactly sure what will be on my vision board. I have couple of dream but as far as career I am very confused. There are many things that bring me the joy. Chemistry, nutrition, cosmetics, people, traveling, business, events, fashion among many more. This gives me hard time to pick one as a major line to focus on. Without focus on a dream and making it a goal, nothing will happen. But which one shall I pick? 

     Here is an useful blog post by The Peaceful Mom on the vision boards. It is beautiful and detailed step by step instruction in proper English (better than mine lol)

via the Peaceful Mom

     I feel that my entire generation is little lost. Many of my friends are walking this beautiful earth wondering what to be when they grow up. I am part of that group. We hear that we could be anything we want - could that be a problem?  

In any case, there are couple of things that I want. I will start with these. And go from there. 

I have a question: how did you find what it is that you want to be when you grow up? Please comment below.


Monday, February 2, 2015

Be Free and True to Yourself

     Yesterday I finally finished my foundation that, I must admit, was a mistake type of purchase. When the box landed in my trash bin I felt major relief. I have additional three foundations that are in the line to be finished too. Why? A good question, however the answer is not so good...

     I have been struggling with my skin since I can remember. In a totally fruitless effort I would be buying more and more of a product that I think it will help. In fact i would buy into any product that promised some kind of miracle. I have facial creams, body lotions, scrubs, oils, masks and so on. You name it, I have it in multiples.  So, I ended up with my bathroom cabinets full of products. 

     Having tons of cosmetics is amazing for someone who is a makeup artist. Although I sell cosmetics (I am the Avon lady) I do not enjoy having too many of eye shadows, 156 to be precised. In fact, my makeup is quite simple for everyday purpose. The same is true for the rest of the beautifying products I own. I have only one body and this is where I will be applying the products, therefore I need  just one product per mission. Do you have the same? Buying constantly with hope of some improvement? Well, I think I came up with a solution in 3 simple steps.

     1. Inventory

     Make inventory of all the products you have in one category. Very important to place all the night creams, or the slimming body lotions in one place. It is important to see how much really do we own. If you are anything like me, the mare view of the amounts will be quite scary. Nevertheless, we could push it further by adding the costs of all these items together. After all these are the dollars that have left your wallet, right? If we did not buy all these goods in the first place: amount X would be in your bank account.   

    2. Cutting Board

     Once all the goodies are in one place, organized by how do you use it. Lets make a decision which ones are first to be used up. The first to go will start to see use as often as possible. Once you done with this one, reach for the second in line, you get the picture. This way we could used them all up - gaining space and peace of mind. Now, many organizing gurus would tell you to toss the products. I do not do it because it is a way to waste our hard earned money. 

     3. Know Thyself  

     This one is very important, pay attention to who you truly are. Let me elaborate: I was buying like crazy all this makeup stuff. I would watch a tutorial as to how to do a perfect blue makeup and I would purchase all the product needed just to do it once, maybe twice. Yep, that is how I ended up with 156 eye shadows. Non of which I use by the way. Here is why: I personally love the 60's. I love everything about that decade, their clothes, their makeup and their crazy hair. In fact, I love it so much that my makeup consist of primer, eyeliner and mascara. Here is the kicker, it always have been this way. So, why on earth would I buy the things that I would never use? I want to blame it on the blonde moment. Now, lesson learned no more impulse crazy shopping. I am smarter now, I know this is not who I am. 

  Time, Money and Space

If you feel up to a challenge to clean up your bathroom I can only congratulate you!!! You will gain time, space and money. Here is how: 

1.) Time - cleaning all these shelves with jars and brushes require time. The more shelves with filled with stuff the more time it takes to clean them.

2.) Space - pretty self explanatory; less items equals more space. Empty space. Empty space is good.

3.) Money - buying only what you need will make more dollars available for other pleasures. Yoga class? A book? Viola! The $15 dollars needed are right there waiting to be spent in a way that will create a beautiful memories. Do you really need three body lotions? No! Could you have a girls night out ? I bet you could :)

Please let me know in the comment section below, what class of product has your biggest number? 

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Sometimes we Just lose Ourselves


     This morning I stood up on a scale, and the bathroom scale spitted up a very ugly number. Naturally, I am not pleased but it made think deep and hard. Mostly, because it is still January and many people are going down with their weight. But also, because I am a nutritionist for God's sake. I spent four years at college studying these things. I know food and food chemistry like my own pockets. I know nutrition very well! The why on earth am I going up in my numbers?

Losing weight is hard

     It is, regardless of how much you know about the subject. I think it's even harder for women. We have our days, we are emotional, not to mention that very often we stress too much. What happens when we hit the emotional stage? Fridge and I are the best friends. And here is a thing: I know I should not! I really do, but I want to. My want to indulge the chocolate is much stronger then my tiny voice in my head saying " you know you shouldn't be touching this." It makes me feel better when I have my chocolate, what can I say?

     It is winter, it is cold and unpleasant out there. We tend to stay inside and snack on comfort food. Unfortunately, comfort food is the heavy, rich, calorie leaded food. Not many people find comfort chewing on carrots, let be frank here. 

Dealing with it

     It is what it is! Beating myself up, will not make the pounds go down. Nor will it make me feel better about myself. If anything I will feel worst which will tighten my relationship with my fridge. I put on weight 22 pounds, it may seem a lot but in my case it's not that bad - I am quite tall. Nevertheless, I am not happy with the way my body is. Luckily, it is winter so I can maneuver the clothes into looking slimmer. Time to take action is now, however for the action to stick I am going to start small. With one thing at a time. First, try to implement a lower calorie, healthy breakfast. That is all for now.

6 Steps for Permanent Changes in your Eating Patterns  

     Starting small is the key. As I already said, I will start with better breakfast. About 250 -300 kcal. The reason why I am starting with breakfast is because in the morning we are more likely to do better things then latter as the day progresses. 

1.) I will add more fruits to my diet - especially breakfast. I think a smoothie is the way to go.

2.) I have to start again, weighing myself every morning. Disclaimer: this trick will work more for mature adults. If you are teenager most likely the number on a scale is attached to self-esteem. I don't think in such cases, you should jump on a scale every morning - once a week is more than sufficient. However, if you get your self worth from your job, friends and family than this is the way to go. It is much easier to catch 5 lbs and react then to catch 50 and try to fight it.

3.) Goes with number 2; have your feel good number to be a range. The range ideally should spread 5 pounds if you are  on a shorter side and 10 if you are taller. Meaning, my feel good weight is 115 - 125 ponds. Thus, ANY number in that scale in my range is fantastic! 124 feels as sexy as 116 pounds! Bodies accumulate water sometimes, or lose it. Being attached to one number is like wanting to marry George Clooney - not going to happen!!!

4.) Get busy! Start a new project or finish the other ones that are forgotten. Getting busy is a fantastic way to simply forget about food. 

5.) When in front of Tv, either do your manicure (it is difficult to be eating with wet nail polish) or do some kind of movement aka exercise. Even if it means lifting a bottle with water. 

6.) Look for another little thing that you will change in your eating pattern; e.g. having three or four cups of coffee and cut just one. Until this will feel natural, as if there could be never other way. Or, having half of the amount of chocolate that you usually eat. 

Beautiful, Healthy Body is a Journey not a Destination      

     That is right, it is a long journey. As we go through the life, our bodies change, our needs change. What was working in your teens will no longer work as well in your 40's. Everyone is unique, and so our diets will be unique. There is no one universal way that works for everyone. If you truly cannot imagine your life without a chocolate, than instead of fighting it - embrace it! Make accommodations in your diet in such way to fit 200 kcal. for chocolate or ice cream.  Why not? Balance is the key...

Please comment below what little changes if any will you make. I truly would love to hear from you.

Monday, January 26, 2015

How Habits Control Our Live

     I wrote may times about the habits and their power over us. I discovered that habits could be harassed to our advantage in my 30's. Once I understood that I wanted to have a conscious decision on which habits I want around which I do not. After some research, I found out that to build a habit it takes 21 times of repetition of habit of our choice.

     There are many habits that I want to build, but I decided to start with a morning routine one. I wrote on a list how I ideally want my morning routine to be. Then, for a month (30 times) I would make sure I am following it. And viola! Habit was formed. Indeed, I was doing things exactly how I wanted  the things to be done.

     Christmas time came around which in my world means travelling. I went to couple of little countries in Europe. Before I knew it I was back in the bad habits' paws. How on Earth did that happened? I thought I had the new improved ways of doing things down to the letter. Huge surprise! I must admit even bigger disappointment. So, what happened?

     Firstly, the jet lag did not help. Secondly, my previous routines were truly hardwired. Thirdly, I probably failed at consciously choosing to follow the new routine. The results are devastating, my skin is back in a horrible shape. I am heartbroken to be honest, but not to the point of giving up. Nevertheless, I know I screwed up, I just don't understand how.

     I went to library to browse a little and this is what I came across:

     And I am very very pleased. Now I will be studying these pesky habits and the mechanisms of their creations. I want to have things under control, especially my skin. I am reading this fantastic book now and I will give you all the steps on how to, once I am done.

Perhaps you have a way to deal with habit creation? If you do, please let me know in the coments below.

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Monday, January 19, 2015

Lessons from My Freezer...


     New Year = new beginning, right? Well, I read somewhere about de-cluttering your space. This article included ways to free the precious real estate on your pantry shelves, fridge and freezer. I store a lot in my freezer as you never know when the girlfriends will show up with a bottle of wine. A snack is in order. I also keep there breakfasts for my daughter and  random stuff. This is how it suppose to work.

  1) Start eating all the supplies you have (not at once) without buying new         supply unless absolutely necessary.

  2) Once the fridge and freezers are empty, a good clean is a must!

  3) Plan meals and start purchasing foods that you really eat and need. This will   decrease spoilage, which in turn will decrease money spent.

     So I started with my freezer. I pick one thing after another to free some space. I made rice with green peas with just soy sauce and it was very good actually. Here is what I discover:

a.) Freezing bread is a fabulous idea - just make sure that it is sliced before you place it in the freezer. Perhaps it's obvious, but not obvious for this blonde. I put couple of full loafs. Trying to cut it is a major challenge. Lesson learned! 

b.) Freezing sticks of butter is also a good tip - however, keep in mind that butter absorbs smells. My freezer had some meat products and somehow the smells traveled off to wrapped butter sticks. I baked a tart with a strange taste. Just imagine - yuck!

c.) When freezing soups make sure they are placed correctly to prevent the from falling out - I had my portioned soups on the doors and when they fell out, a package got broken. Result? Not only the soup got contaminated with bacteria, but also my plastic container got broken.

d.) The last discovery, I do have my favourite party food. I tend to buy the same product over and over again. Knowing that I'll wait for a sale and buy at least ten vegetable gyoza to fill up the space that I am clearing - ha ha ha! 

Saturday, January 17, 2015

Building a Future

     Have you ever wok so much that you come home exhausted to pass out on a bed, just to repeat the same the very next day? I am sure you have, we all did. In this economy, people work hard. It is not uncommon to have a working week of 50 or 60 hours. We get paid for it, don't we? Yet many of us are not happy, I know I was not happy. I know I shall be happy, since anyone who has a job should be glad. Jobs are hard to come by these days. Am I unappreciative?

     I thought about this long and hard. I am not happy because I felt like being on one of these wheels that we put in hamsters' cages. Running around without results showing for it. I found antidote for the pain. I decided to open my own business. I ask my very dear girlfriend to partner with me. I believe in girls friendship a lot - read here thoughts on girlfriends.  She agreed! Therefore on January 14, 2015 a business was born to two blondes.

     I must admit, we were proud - very proud when the "enter" was hit and the business became official. I must also admit, it is very scary too. Million what if's filled my head. What if we won't make money? What if we won't have customers? What if something goes wrong? Can we do it? and so on...

     Then I had a thought, we will work on it give it our all. At least we are building something. Building something tangible, creating something that with time can grow. Creating something that we can say, we are proud of it. Just like a baby. When one has a baby there are better days and there are worst days, but every mother struggle forward. Every day, and then this moment comes when our babies grow to this magnificent humans that we are so proud of. That is exactly what my friend and I hope for. For now, we have head full of dreams...

Wish us luck please.